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If you were on the hottest social media app Tik Tok this past summer, you probably know about what it means to be the Main Character. The archetype of the main character is nearly epitomized as being the center of attention, but not in the perfect life kind of way. More like in a "quirky" kind of way.

Recently, as social media has begun to highlight quirky personalities and shame their basic counterparts, the trend has only perpetuated the cycle of homogeneity. Regardless of how unprecedented a goal may be, with everyone aiming for it, it loses its shine. Quite frankly, striving to match an archetype of any sort produces the most boring and predictable movie---for you, as the "main character," and for viewer: your friends. And not only is it boring, but aiming to fit that mold is tiring---unsatisfactory. 

So as the clíche goes: Just be yourself. 

But sometimes, even that's boring. (No offense)

I believe one of the most satisfactory and thrilling ways to live is by being shameless. Not just unashamed, but shameless. Dictionary.com defines the word as "lacking any sense of shame" or "insensible to disgrace"---even when rightfully deserved. Despite the negative connotation of the word, I often choose to describe myself as shameless (something that people don't know). 

Recently, I've learned to embrace shame and being ridiculed. As I've come to see it, nobody cares about me. Seriously, nobody actually cares about the things that you and I do; it's not their life! Really the only people who care about my actions are my friends, telling me "Sabrina, that's sooo stupid" and "that's never gonna happen." Call me an idealist but actually entertaining the random ideas is both possible and one of the most exciting decisions possible. Truthfully, it's the best way to make friends: showing your most genuine and strange side. It's the best way to improve yourself and your personality. Say hi to everyone on the street! In the car next to you! Act like someone you've just met is a lifelong friend! It may take them by surprise but ultimately shamelessness is often appreciated. 

You make friends and make it big when you do what everyone's too scared to do. You're only the main character in your own life.


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